Supporting children emotionally after the floods

In the wake of the recent flooding events across our region, many parents and carers are noticing increased anxiety and distress in their children.

For some, the sound of rain or warnings of bad weather are now deeply unsettling, bringing back the fear and uncertainty of the floods.

This is a completely understandable response. Disasters can shake our sense of safety. Children, who look to adults for reassurance, can be especially affected.

You may be wondering, how do I support my child when I'm feeling overwhelmed myself?

The good news is, as a parent or carer, you're in a powerful position to help your child recover emotionally.

One of the most effective tools you have is emotion coaching as a way of responding to your child's emotional world with empathy, calmness, and connection.

Start with self-regulation

Children often "borrow" their adult's nervous system. If you can regulate your own emotional state in challenging situations, it makes it easier for your child to do the same. Try:

• Pause and breathe: before responding to your child's distress, take a few slow, grounding breaths. This helps calm your nervous system so you can respond rather than react.
• Check in with yourself: name your own emotions internally to create space between your feelings and your actions.
• Model coping out loud: saying things like, "This rain makes me a bit uneasy too, but I know we're safe, and I can handle this," shows your child how to manage emotions with self-talk and reassurance.

Emotion coaching strategies to support your child

Once you're feeling more settled, you can help your child through their own emotional experiences. Try these approaches:

• Name it to tame it: help your child label their feelings. "You look really worried, is it the rain that's making you feel unsafe?"
• Validate and accept: let them know it's okay to feel what they're feeling. Avoid dismissing or rushing them through emotions.
• Be the calm in the storm: use a soothing voice, offer a gentle hug, or a calm presence to help co-regulate their emotions.
• Connect before correcting: if your child is acting out or overwhelmed, start with empathy before jumping to discipline or problem-solving.
• Reinforce safety and routine: re-establishing predictable routines and simple safety plans (like a "what we'd do if..." discussion) gives children a sense of control.

When to seek extra support

Most children will settle over time with this kind of warm, responsive support.

But if your child is still struggling weeks later, showing ongoing fear, sleep difficulties, emotional outbursts, clinginess, or changes in mood or behaviour; it may be time to reach out to someone for support.

The process may vary for different mental health services. However, at The Rosewood Centre, we often begin with a session just for parents or carers to better understand what's happening and make a plan together. Our psychologists are experienced in supporting children and families through trauma and change, helping you and your family navigate what you're experiencing.

If you're concerned, consider reaching out to us or another local psychology practice experienced in supporting children and families.

Early support can make a meaningful difference, and speaking with a professional can help you decide on the best next steps for your child.